ABOUT MALAIKA

An Indian Matchmaker from Mumbai, based in Paris.

Hi there!

My name is Malaika.

I’m an Indian Matchmaker based in Paris, working with ambitious professionals all over Europe.

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A database of ambitious professionals just like you.

I work with a database of around 5000 people, most of whom who are born and raised in India, now based in Europe after finishing an MBA. They are lovely, kind, intelligent people who logical, rational thinkers, working for companies across Europe as project managers, engineers, and consultants, and looking for a partner who is intelligent, independent, and can think for themself.

Born and raised in India, educated in the U.S., in love with the world.

I was born in a small town in south India – like my mother, and paternal grandfather before me – and grew up in the island city of Mumbai, formerly known as Bombay. Back then, India was a different country, and talking about ‘love’ was reserved for Bollywood.

1 month old Malaika – with my mum and dad in Mumbai, India
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Growing up in India

But I still believed in love with all my heart, even though I was living in a conservative society that spoke only about “working hard” and “securing your future”.

My beliefs in a true connection between two people were reserved for my private notebooks.

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I  used to write poems about meeting my soulmate, and while growing up, I harboured this secret dream inside me.

If it was possible in novels, surely it could be possible in real life?

Studying Human Behaviour and Psychology

As a teenager, I moved to the U.S. and studied human behaviour and psychology at New York University. Though my days were filled with brilliant professors and cutting-edge research, I felt lost in an ocean of pimply adolescents who talked about “hitting bases” and “tapping that”. What the what?!

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Graduating from NYU – Photo with my parents

 

 

Building a Global Career

After university, I worked as an economist for NGOs in Latin America, where many girls have their first child at age 11. Mind boggled.

I worked for companies in Ecuador and Haiti, and travelled to Colombia and Bolivia. Throughout it all, I was meeting other ambitious professionals just like me and you who also loved to travel, but didn’t seem to want anything serious alongside their careers. It all left me wondering what “love” actually meant. A bad breakup motivated me to apply for a job in Europe, and I moved to Germany.

Moving to Europe

A bad breakup motivated me to apply for a job in Europe, and I moved to Germany. During my studies, I’d been selected by the Swiss Government to spend a summer conducting research at the University of Neuchatel, and my work was published in an economics journal in the US. It had also given me a first experience of life in Europe, and I was ready for more.

Once I arrived in Germany, my career was going really well – I had a job I loved and interesting colleagues. But my emotions were still at rock bottom, and I had a hard time trusting new people.

Though my personal life wasn’t advancing, my career kept growing. I moved from working at an international NGO to a position with the United Nations, managing a multi-million dollar project with colleagues spread across 7 countries. I loved working in such an international environment for sustainable development and a more just, fair world for all.

But living in Germany was really lonely. Most Germans had 1-2 friends, at the most. And other expats were busy with their own lives and careers. I wanted to be able to share my life with someone who truly understood me… but whom?!

Gable of the city wine house and townhall at Prinzipalmarkt, Muenster, Muensterland, North Rhine-Westphalia, Germany

A Successful Start-Up

During that time, I received many questions from friends and relatives on how to get a job at the UN. At first, I started helping a friend with her resumé, then another, then another… This grew into InternationalNGOJobs.com

Educated professionals from 164 countries found me via my blog, and reached out to me for help with building a life they loved after investing time, money, and energy in studying abroad. They wanted an international career, and they loved being in a new culture and a new country.

I helped them get well-paid, highly-prestigious jobs at the United Nations, UNHCR, the Clinton Foundation, and various other NGOs.

After a presentation at UCSD in San Diego, California
After a presentation at UCSD in San Diego, California

 

I was invited to lecture at Monash University in Australia, and at the University of California in San Diego – Public School of Policy. My free guides were downloaded by over 15,000 people, and 200+ students joined my paid programmes on finding work that is satisfying, fulfilling, and well-paid.

My articles were featured in publications including Idealist Careers, Human Rights Careers, ProFellow and WhyDev.

 

I loved working with ambitious, educated young professionals, and felt honoured by their trust and the chance to support them in growing their careers and professional development.

However, once they found stability and security through those jobs, something was still missing. This something was a great relationship. Plus, I love love (see above). My clients were doing well in the careers, and now they were ready to settle down with someone serious.

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This photo was taken in the desert of Baja California, in the north of Mexico, on my 24,000km trip from Alaska to Argentina.

Passionate about travel.

Recently, I finished a 24,000km bike ride form Alaska to Argentina, which catalysed my mission to help people find a lasting connection, as every single person I met wanted to “find someone”, even more than they wanted to travel the world. During my travels, I interviewed over 3000 people on how they found their life partner, and what they did to stay married.

I read every article on the internet. Then I applied them to my own life. It took 10 long, lonely years, filled with many nights spent crying alone in my bed because I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong.

The research matched everything I’d already studied at NYU, about psychology and human behaviour. The data showed, again and again, in 70-year longitudinal studies, there is a formula to finding someone you can connect with. Then, marriage becomes the logical next step when two people find synergy based on a shared set of values and dreams.

Plus, I was receiving a lot of questions from my international careers students on the “next step”.

Moving to Paris

Finding Love in Paris
Living in Paris
Living in Paris

After completing my bike trip, I returned to Europe, and decided to live in Paris, based on an intuition that I might find love there.

Indeed, that’s exactly what happened 🙂

The best part: it was spontaneous, natural, and a FUN connection.

I had achieved my childhood dream of finding my soulmate. But I’m not a special snowflake; I’m just another kid from India who decided to move to a foreign country and try living there.

I found someone who spoke my mother tongue fluently, who was excited to get to know me and get to know my family, and who supported me 100% in my dreams and in my career.

If it was possible for me, it’s possible for you.

On a Mission to Help Professionals Find Love.

My friends and family were surprised – and curious. Video Training by Malaika - Advanced Relationship Skills

“How’d you do it? How’d you find someone?” they asked me?

Responding to this demand, I applied the same principles of human behaviour and psychology, coupled with years of experience and the study of interpersonal relationships to create and launch AdvancedRelationshipSkills.com.

Cycling from North to South America had also given me a lot of time to think, helped me see my true calling, and led me to my work as a matchmaker for the Indian community in Europe.

Respect comes first.

As my father always said:

“Pick someone who treats you with respect.”

It applies to both men and women, and is the foundation behind any and all my matches.

Based on the principles of Human Psychology.

My work as a matchmaker comes from a logical, rational approach based on the principles of human behaviour and psychology, which I studied at New York University in New York City.

Malaika Neri - Professional Indian Matchmaker in the EU
Malaika Neri – Professional Indian Matchmaker in the EU

 

I found my soulmate after investing in learning open communication, working on myself, and working with a professional coach who helped me grow professionally and personally.

Marriage should be FUN.

Working with a coach and mentor helped me find a path forward – a path to a relationship based on love and mutual respect. And in the end, I found my person. We make each other laugh so much. We cook together. We stay awake too late and wake up too early while travelling.
Sometimes I shudder to think of how lonely life would now be, had I been stubborn, choosing to struggle instead of learning a better way.
My journey helped me find my calling as a Professional Indian Matchmaker serving the Indian Community across the EU and Schengen Zone.

Can I introduce you?

I work with a database of around 5000 people working for companies across Europe as project managers, engineers, and consultants, and looking for a partner who is intelligent, independent, and can think for themself.
Here you can download sample profiles of the kinds of folks I work with.

Happy to meet you, let me know if you’d like to set up some introductions.

 

xoxo