With my hiking group in the French Alps (3 of 4 guys in this photo were single!)
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3 Systems to Find Your Perfect Match

25 May 2023

Time for a quick status check:

If you still believe that rubbish about meeting your soulmate tomorrow in the supermarket, please GTFO and close this tab right now.

We are not here to talk about Hollywood movies scripted by 22-year-old white boys from suburban America.

We are here to talk about MARRIAGE.

It’s a lifetime commitment, with no margin for error.

Great marriages (like great careers) are built on SYSTEMS.

Here are the 3 systems you need to find your Perfect Match:

  1. A system to be an attractive option.
  2. A system to meet the right people.
  3. A system to “test” which one is right for you.

If you build these three systems, you have the foundation of emotional intimacy and trust required for a serious, long-term relationship. Everything you do after that will be built on top of these three systems.

System #1: Be an attractive option
I live in Paris today, and have met Husband Material Men in each of the 8 countries I’ved lived in prior.
  1. System #1: Be an Attractive Option.

There are 3 essential ingredients to being an attractive option to your future Soulmate:

👉 Location: where you live

👉 Location: where you spend your free time

👉 Timing: when you’re available & in a good mood

These three work together to make it possible for you to meet the kinds of men you want to date. Your location and timing will determine who you’re meeting today, and what you need to do to change that. Notice how this list is very different to magazines that tell us we need to be skinnier, wear lingerie, and have duck lips.

 

malaika hiking group france
Weekend trip to the Alps with my Paris Hiking Group

2. System #2: A consistent way to meet high-quality serious options. 

I am so happy you’re reading this article, but if you still believe that “run into your soulmate by chance” garbage, we better say goodbye to each other.

Top performers run their lives on SYSTEMS. 

Your soulmate is someone you choose from a short, tightly-curated list of high-quality options who match your preferences, criteria, and dealbreakers. Your job is to fill that list with options, using consistent, proven SYSTEM.

In my own case, living in Paris, I have 2 systems to provide consistent options:

➡️ Live events where I meet ambitious, educated professionals. I attend 1-4 events per week, and met 5-15 men at each event. On average, this leads to 2-4 dates per month.

➡️ Sports groups attended by educated professionals, like my Paris hiking group. I knew 6 couples produced by this group. We meet every single Sunday (52 opportunities per year).

With my hiking group in the French Alps (3 of 4 guys in this photo were single!)
With my Paris hiking group in the French Alps (3 of 4 guys in this photo were single!)

System #3: A way to “test” if your match is right for you.

Disclaimer: #3 is 100% based on YOUR criteria for YOUR soulmate.

My criteria: Someone adaptable, positive energy, enjoys the great outdoors.

My test: Staying positive on a 20km hike through in the forest.

Test #1: Hike in the forest in the Paris suburbs, budget = 10 euro (Easy).

Test #2: Hike in the Pyrenées mountains in the south of France. Budget = 100 – 500  euro (Challenging).

Test #3: Travel to a country, organise a hike in a foreign language, survive extreme heat + cultural confusion. Budget = 1000 – 3000 euro.

Your test must be easy to implement, quick to execute, directly relevant to your lifestyle (not your parents, not your friends, not your community).

Hiking at 7am in Santorini, Greece (after 5am wake up, before the 9am paralysing 45C heat.
Hiking at 7am in Santorini, Greece (after 5am wake up, before the 9am paralysing 45C heat.

Your test must be easy to implement, quick to execute, directly relevant to your lifestyle (not your parents, not your friends, not your community).

Passing your test = signals to you that they are a keeper. 

Failing the test = red flag. You either re-test, or break up and move on.

Before your set up your first long-term relationship systems, I want to make sure you learn how to pick the right match for a long-term relationship, then grow it so you travel the world together, and enjoy deep, emotional intimacy, connection, and security with an attractiveand affectionate man who loves you exactly as you are.

I’m teaching you the step-by-step process on how to do this, so you can fast-track your progress to meet the right profiles, test which one is your perfect match, and start a long-term relationship.

That’s why I’m going to give you some of my juiciest case studies and other information on creating your own happy, serious relationship.

Click here to join my exclusive Perfect Match waitlist for this information, along with your invitation to the course.

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