Sometimes, it could be because of bad experiences as an adult: A breakup. A toxic relationship. Or it’s because of loneliness, and long painful years of living alone. Stonewalling blocks any and all emotional security. Stonewalling, according to relationships expert Dr. John Gottman, is one the toxic habits on the path to divorce.
Yesterday, I asked my single guy friend Paul if he’d want to be a stay-at-home dad. “Sure,” he replied. “Are you serious?” I prodded. “Absolutely,” Paul nodded. “I’d do yoga. I’d get my nails done. I’d hang with my friends. Go for coffee. Cook dinner.” My eyebrows went up. “Cooking at home is a […]
The “Relationship Bill of Rights” sounds like something out of a legal drama on HBO. This story, however, begins with my friend Alexandra, who wanted a traditional happily-ever-after. Alexandra had been dating Stephan, a globe-trotting entrepreneur who lived between Europe and the United States. On paper, it seemed like a perfect match. A few months […]
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“Everyone spends more than they plan to on their wedding,” he says. “The average wedding is $35,000,” without frills.
“My husband tells me all the time: “You expecting me to give you time, attention, and care for you is not crazy ask. That is my responsibility as your husband. It’s not insane nor out of line ask.”
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These phrases (“a guy who’s well-settled”, “a woman who’s passionate”) dominate the discourse of the dating world. As a Professional Matchmaker, I hear these phrases so many times, I’ve almost come to expect it. It’s “normal” in the marriage market, but here’s the problem: When you’re the same as everyone else, you might as well not exist.
Rita wanted to remarry, find a partner, and hopefully start a family. “It’s not too late for me, right?” she had asked. But she felt bogged down by her past, the weight of community expectations around caste + culture, and being a complete newbie to the process. “I have literally no clue where to start and what to do,” she said.
Can your relate?
